Welcome to Becoming The Mother
Hi, I’m Rebecca
I am the founder of Becoming The Mother, a certified Trauma-Informed Seasons of Matrescence™ Educator and Guide, an Embodied Processing Practitioner, a Conscious Connected Breathwork Facilitator, a Certified NLP Practitioner, and a Women’s Circle Facilitator.
But long before any of those professional titles, I am a mother to four beautiful children.
The work I do isn't something I simply trained in; it is a path I have intimately lived. I know the profound beauty of this journey, and I know its deepest shadows. My mission is to ensure that no mother has to navigate either one alone.
"Healing changes your motherhood journey. Not because life suddenly becomes easy, but because you enhance your capacity to navigate it."
My Journey into Motherhood.
My path into motherhood did not begin with a birth. It started with an unexpected pregnancy that ended in a heartbreaking loss. At the time, I had no understanding of trauma, grief, or the profound emotional impact that experience would leave on my soul. There was very little support available. Without the language to express my pain or the guidance to move through it, I turned it inward. For years, I relied on unhealthy coping mechanisms, mistakenly believing that "just surviving" was my only option. Eventually, in my mid-twenties, I reached rock bottom—and that dark place became the true beginning of my healing.
A few years later, I became pregnant with my first son. Although that pregnancy was marked by challenges within my relationship, becoming his mother filled me with an undeniable sense of purpose, love, and joy. While I didn't experience postnatal depression after his birth, I can see now that I had simply become incredibly skilled at suppressing difficult emotions rather than actually processing them.
When I became pregnant again in 2014, the walls I built came crumbling down. From the very beginning of that pregnancy, my emotional wellbeing deteriorated rapidly. I experienced what is labelled as severe anxiety and depression, that stretched through the pregnancy and deep into the postnatal period. There were dark moments when I truly believed my children would be better off without me. Looking back, I can see how deeply that struggle affected not only me, but also my eldest child and our entire family life. The years that followed brought ongoing relationship challenges, repeated heartbreak, and an emotional instability that impacted us all.
The Turning Point.
Then, in 2019, I became pregnant with twins. This experience felt completely different. Years of therapy, dedicated healing, and deep inner work had begun to radically transform my life. Because of that foundation, the pregnancy, birth, and postpartum periods became experiences of profound joy, connection, and peace - realities I once believed were entirely impossible for me.
Five months after my twins were born, my husband and I permanently separated, later divorcing in 2022. Today, we continue to successfully co-parent our children together. While those years brought monumental changes, they also confirmed a truth I now hold at the core of my practice: healing changes your motherhood journey.
Why I Do This Work
For many years, alongside raising my family, I built and ran a successful hair and beauty business. In 2019, life asked me to step away from that career to focus entirely on my children. Following my separation, I knew I needed to rebuild my life and return to work, but my heart was pulling me in a completely new direction. I felt an undeniable call to support other mothers in navigating their own journeys toward happier, healthier, and more connected lives, drawing directly on the wisdom I gathered through my own recovery.
In 2023, I trained as a Seasons of Matrescence™ Guide and Educator, while continually expanding my studies in trauma, nervous system regulation, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), embodied healing, women's sacred spaces, and emotional well-being.
Also in 2023, I had the immense privilege of working with children in residential care. Supporting young people who have experienced severe trauma remains one of the greatest honours of my life. Every day, it reminded me how vital it is that we care for mothers. When mothers receive the support, space, and healing they require, their children directly benefit. Healthy, regulated mothers create healthier, thriving families.
Becoming The Mother
My passion for this work only continues to grow. In early 2026, I fully returned to guiding women through the profound, identity-shifting transition of Matrescence (the process of becoming a mother). Today, through Becoming The Mother, I facilitate:
- Mother Circles & Sacred Women's Spaces for deep, shared connection.
- Breathwork for Mothers to regulate and restore the nervous system.
- Grief and Healing Events to honor the unsaid and release the heavy.
- Subconscious Rewiring & Emotional Well-being Sessions using NLP and somatic tools.
- Nurturing Containers where mothers can finally feel seen, heard, and deeply understood.
Motherhood carries an incredible capacity for love, but it can also carry immense, quiet grief. We grieve for who we used to be. We carry grief for births that didn't go as hoped, for relationships that shifted, and for the sudden loss of our old identity, freedom, careers, and expectations. We grieve for the versions of ourselves we've had to leave behind.
Most mothers never get the time or permission to process these heavy experiences; instead, they are told to just keep going. I know exactly what happens when we carry everything without a release valve. Eventually, that trapped emotional energy weighs heavily on our physical bodies, our nervous systems, and our overall well-being. That is precisely why Becoming The Mother exists.
What I Believe
I believe that when a child is born, a mother is born too. She isn't just taking care of a baby; she is actively learning, changing, grieving, growing, and becoming someone entirely new. She deserves care, deep compassion, and a level of support that goes far beyond simply surviving.
At Becoming The Mother, you will find a space where you don't need to pretend you're coping. This is a sanctuary where your nervous system can finally soften, drop its guard, and rest. Your unique experiences are honoured here completely without judgment, giving you a place to reconnect with your own essence while you care for the people you love most.
How I Support Mothers
Whether you are newly pregnant, navigating the raw edges of postpartum, or are years into motherhood wondering why you still don't fully feel like yourself - you are welcome here.
Through a powerful combination of trauma-informed Matrescence coaching, Conscious Connected Breathwork, Embodied Processing, NLP subconscious rewiring, and nurturing community circles and events, I walk alongside mothers who are experiencing:
- Anxiety & Overwhelm in daily motherhood
- Burnout & Emotional Exhaustion
- Birth Trauma or difficult postpartum transitions
- Identity Loss and the disconnect from self
- Nervous System Dysregulation (feeling constantly hyper-vigilant or numb)
- Grief and Silent Losses
- Relationship Changes and family shifting
- Limiting Subconscious Beliefs or a harsh inner critic
- A deep desire to feel like you again
Every mother’s story is beautifully unique, but no mother should ever have to navigate it alone.
Ready to take the next step?
If something on this page has spoken to your heart, I would be honoured to welcome you into the Becoming The Mother community.
Whether you join an upcoming Mother Circle, attend a local healing event, experience the profound release of Breathwork for Mothers, or simply begin by reading and listening along from afar—know that you do not have to carry the weight of this season by yourself.
There is a safe space waiting for you here.
Recent Qualifications
NLP Diploma - 2022
Child Psychology BSc - first and second year 2023
Seasons of Matrescence™ Educator and Guide - 2023
Womans Circle Facilitator Diploma - 2024
Trauma Informed Certification - 2025
Certified facilitator for 'The Grief Space' workshop - 2025
Concious Connected Breathwork Facilitator - 2026
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